I have had several women friends who have sons and they told me that once they were grown, they grew apart. I know my husband and his brother are not close with their mother at all, but that's not completely a fault of theirs. On the other hand, my sister is still very close with her son and my aunt seems to be close with her grown sons as well. On the daughter side, I know that I'm virtually inseparable from my mom and my sister is very close with her too, even thought she lives out of state. I sincerely hope that this will not be the case with my sons. I am working very hard to keep close relationships with them and I'm hoping that I can be accepting of the women they choose as their partners in the future. So, I guess the saying is subjective. It really depends on the individuals and the family circumstances surrounding them.
I've thought about that a lot as I raise my son. I know with my daughter that we will be close when she's an adult because she is so much like my. But my son is much more reserved so I'm determined to give him the space he needs rather than smother him in hopes that as an adult we will remain close.
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